“Some things cannot be fixed; they can only be carried. Grief like yours, love like yours, can only be carried.

Survival in grief, even eventually building a new life alongside grief, comes with the willingness to bear witness, both to yourself and to the others who find themselves inside this life they didn’t see coming. Together, we create real hope for ourselves, and for one another. We need each other to survive...” 
— Megan Devine
   It's OK That You're Not OK

🍀​​Irish Proverb ~ There are good ships, and there are wood ships, the ships that sail the sea. But the best ships are friendships, and may they always be. May your day be touched with a bit of Irish luck, Brightened by a song in your heart, And warmed by smiles from the people you love. 

I had my own notion of grief. I thought it was the sad time that followed the death of someone you love. And you had to push through it to get to the other side. But I'm learning there is no other side. There is no pushing through. But rather, there is absorption. Adjustment. Acceptance. And grief is not something you complete, But rather, you endure. Grief is not a task to finish and move on, But an element of yourself. An alteration of your being. A new way of seeing a new definition of self.
~Gwen Flowers

Never allow yourself to feel guilty for missing someone.
It's just your heart reminding you how much you love them.💗

​Be Present.
Let the day flow with grace.
Expect nothing. Give thanks.
Surrender. Be open.
Speak only kindness.
Impart only love.
Never forget you're not alone.
Give so you may receive.
See goodness in others.

It's not easy, some of our most valued and fulfilling experiences are often colored with a tinge of pain. Good days and bad days will be quite normal for you to see-saw up and down between feelings of coping and despair. As time goes on you will experience more peaks and fewer troughs and the troughs will become progressively shallower.

Part of coping with grief is learning to tolerate and work through painful emotions; it's normal to to feel feel frustration and depression – but please believe it is worth it EVERY DAY to take a deep breath, and START AGAIN.

If you’ve cut out activities that used to be an important part of your life,  it may be time to try scheduling them back in. Some of these activities may no longer feel pleasurable, if they remind you of your loved one, they require effort, or force you to confront difficult emotions.... you should consider scheduling them in anyway.

Love is patient; Love is kind, Love does not insist on its own way. Love bears all things, believes all things, Hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.
I Corinthians 13:4-8